Sunday, January 25, 2009

You know, being a mother (or parent for that matter) of multiples can present some unique challenges to say the least. It amazes me when I get around parents with only singletons (yes, that is what we parents of multiples call them). I have struggled back and forth with certain feelings over this topic. Friday I went and had a play date with 3 other mothers of twins who happen to all be within 2 months of my kiddos age. It was the most refreshing thing I have done in SO very long. I had forgotten about how certain challenges pop up and you just can't deal with them the same way that a parent of a single child can. I try very hard not to feel this way but in the end it's the sad reality.

It seems that each age has brought on a new set of challenges. Or maybe I should say it seems that just as we finish one set of challenges a new set arises (which I think is just normal child rearing). For instance...the new thing for the boys is "monkey see, monkey do." When you have one child this tends to only happen at school or while playing with other children, right? Well, every day, all day...they copy each other now. This presents itself the most while eating. If one decides he wants to throw his food on the floor or up in the air, the other sees this and the next thing you know he is already doing it as well. You can't even get there fast enough to catch it. If one decides he is going to throw a fit because he wants something, the other is going to join in. Now let's see...the odds are in their favor...2 against mommy or daddy. This with one child can be overwhelming and tiring...now put yourself in the position of having 2 (or even more!) at once dealing with this. Oh, and don't even let me tell you about when they discover they can get together and do something they are not supposed to. Hmm...that's a whole other topic.

So I guess all this rambling is to say I am thankful to have found the multiples group here. I didn't realize how much peace of mind I get from talking with other mothers of multiples and listening to how they deal with these situations and such. Even just hearing what their troubles are is comforting to me! Strange as it may sound.

I picked up my knitting again for the first time in over 2 years. It actually felt really good. I couldn't believe I had forgotten how to do everything but it quickly came back. So this is the beginning of some baby booties.


As I was typing the title for my post over here it struck me that we are only 25 days into the year. Wow...that doesn't sound like much but man did January fly by. 365 days seems so long and in reality these days it is gone in a blink of an eye.

6 comments:

Mr.Anonymous said...

cool blog

Sheila @ Dr Cason.org said...

Oh I feel your pain. While I don't have multiples I do have three kids. My oldest was 3 when the third was born and I'm always saying: Stop that or everyone will copy you! And they always copy...

theladybugpages said...

Sorry things are rough right now! I have a (actually 2!) awards for you on my blog! You are such a good friend :) Have a good day!

H said...

I can agree completely. Singletons act different and different things work for multiples. Glad you found a group up there.

Holly

Margaret said...

I'm so glad that you found support. You amaze me at how well you manage with twins! I don't think I would do as well.

Nola1130 said...

Twice the pain and suffering but..hopefully, twice the hugs and kisses!!! Hang in there!
Love Ya.

LinkWithin

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...